If you live just about anywhere in the Us right now, you have probably spent much of this week being cold.
I too, have spent most of the week being cold.
Okay, that's a lie. I've been freezing. And two pairs of socks, a shirt and sweater combo, a blanket or two and a scarf around the neck is not always enough to keep me not freezing.
I am very, very, very sensitive to cold. I am annoyingly sensitive to the cold.
And you know what? I'm over people telling me to get over winter.
I live in the midwest.
Yes, we get winter every. single. year.
Yes, it gets cold every. single. year.
No, it is never a surprise.
But you know what? It still sucks.
I'm iron deficient, which makes me sensitive to the cold, even more than I have always been.
The cold aggravates my muscles that have been cut open multiple times and already hurt most of the time. They hurt more when they are cold. They spasm more when they are cold. And the cold affects my range of motion.
My joints get stuck in the cold: a result of leftover chemo side effects and a side effect of a current medicine I'm on.
That's just me.
Other friends also struggle to stay warm when it's cold because of medical things. Cold affects lots of joints. It inflames neuropathy. Etc, etc, etc.
The cold sucks and can aggravate a lot of other things already going on with people.
And you know what? I didn't know all of this when I decided to stay in the midwest, where I was born and raised, by the rest of my family, and my husband's family. So, the advice to just "Move someplace warmer!" isn't actually helpful.
Know what else? I don't think I need to even have to have a medical reason to complain about the cold. I see people complain about things every day. When people complain about their job, I don't just say flippantly "At least you have a job," or "Just get a new job."
I listen. I nod my head along. I offer hugs (real and virtual). I don't complain about you complaining about things: whether they happen every year or not.
If I want to complain a few moments about the cold, just let me. I'll let you get out your complaints too. I promise.